aka Reset part 2
“People are always blaming circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.” – George Bernard Shaw
I have not had the success I would like to have. I have not met the goals I have set for myself. I am disappointed in myself. However, I will not dwell upon the past because that type of thinking is self-destructive. What I will do is figure out where I have went wrong and make changes from there.
I tend to think in very logical straight forward terms. When I do something, the details must be pinned down to minutiae otherwise I don’t feel comfortable moving forward. Oftentimes, this leads to me becoming discouraged and irresponsible.
For the past year I have really immersed myself in self-development material. From The Secret to Eckhart Tolle to Steven R. Covey to Daniel Amen, i believe that there is valuable information that can be incorporated from all of their respective texts. There are commonalities that exist in all self-development books and I feel that after one year I am able to glean what is valuable for my own self and formulate a plan based on those principles.
I call that plan The New Deal.
Yes, I have hit the reset button again.
Named after the progressive plans that former president Franklin Delano Roosevelt instituted when he was in office, my New Deal is less ambitious and more pragmatic than the Roosevelt plan. It is very logical, with details planned down to minutiae. I feel that if I follow this plan, then my chances for personal success are 100%.
The plan is very simple:
Materials needed (absolutely required):
- Memo Notepad (99 cents at CVS)
- A journal (can be just a marble notebook)
- A willingness to step out of the reality that you have created for yourself and step into a more successful one.
1. Sit down with a pen and your journal, open it to the first page, and write down the problems that you feel that you have with your life. Keep this list as short and as broad as possible. For instance, do not write “In the rare event I get a girl to come back to my house, she will never have sex with me,” if you find it difficult talking and getting women to become attracted to you in the first place. Make a nice spiffy headline at the top of the page.
2. On the next page, write down a list of goals you want to accomplish. Next to each goal, write a few sentences describing how that goal directly relates to any of the problems you just listed. If the goal does not relate to any of the problems you have listed, think about scratching it. We want to keep things as simple as possible here.
3. On the page after this, write down where you would like to be in given terms of progress within different time frames. I chose 3, 6, and 12 months. Write as if you have already accomplished these goals. For instance, “In six months, I will have gained 20 lbs. and look fit, but not muscular yet.” Again, try to set realistic goals for yourself.
3. Sit on your journal and think about the goals for the next day or two. Maybe spend a couple of minutes envisioning yourself after your given time frames, like say, after 12 months. Anyways, from here we move onto phase II, the daily part of our plan.
4. Every morning when you wake up, review the goals in your journal. Then write down your goals for the day. It is okay to write errands like, “go to the supermarket,” but also try to make your daily goals adhere to your overall goals as much as possible. After each goal is finished, strike it out with a pen, or put a checkmark next to it. Believe me, nothing is more gratifying then going back over your notepad and seeing nothing but crossed out lists. It is okay if you are not catering to every goal everyday, but then you must remember never to lose sight of that overall goal.
5. At the end of everyday, write in your journal. You can write about whatever comes to mind, but also try to critique your effort on achieving your daily goals. Write about the difficulties you had trying to achieve them, if you happened not to achieve them, write down why you didn’t.
Discipline = Consistency = Results
I visited my brother this past weekend and this “equation” was written on his bathroom wall. I this this sums up the The New Deal plan very nicely!
Here are some questions that may ring through your mind:
What if I fail? No one knows failure worse than I. I wrote down the goals I wanted to complete in November for the next three months, it is May and I have not accomplished any of them. The point here is that this is not going to be easy. It is going to take sacrifice. No one is going to do this for you. In the event you do fail, take a mental note of how you feel, and then get back up on that wagon. If your goal is more of a preventative measure (stop smoking, or in my case stop watching porn), think about how you felt after you broke that habit when you think about falling off again. DO NOT dwell upon your failures because again, it is negative and self-destructive.
Also, remember to review your goals and be as realistic as possible. If you feel that the time frame you have set to accomplish your goals will not work. Then simply change the time frame for your goals.
Lastly, this New Deal is constantly under revision (especially with some of the verbiage I have used here). I am going to make a duplicate link to this post on the sidebar, be on the lookout for that.
In the next post, I will post my own goals (again).